Tuesday, January 6, 2009

I Can So Relate!


I nominated myself for this award after seeing the following criteria here:

If you could make a little house from used pee sticks and OPKs.

If you talk in TTC acronyms nobody except people on the internet understand.

If you have ever been stuck with any needles in order to achieve pregnancy.

If you have had to stick yourself, or your husband has had to turn into your nurse in order to do it for you.

If you've ever seen a blank ultrasound screen.

If you know what a dildocam is.

If you have ever gotten shower invites, family photos, or birth announcements in the mail and had a good cry.

If you have watched someone go through an entire cycle of pregnancy in the time it took you to even try (make that 2 or 3 pregnancies!!!).

If you have ever heard "just relax" or "it's not your time" or "it's God's will".

If you dread holidays because you cannot announce a pregnancy to your family.

If you dread holidays because there are no children to share them with.

If you have ever held a baby or child and quietly pretended for a second that they're yours.

If you have ever walked around the store in order to avoid the baby/toddler section.

If you cannot park in the front spots of a store because they are for pregnant and expectant
mothers only.

If you've ever had to go IN the baby/toddler section of a store in order to buy something for someone else's baby.

If you've ever yelled out during watching a movie or tv show about someone who's trying for a baby, "That's SO not realistic!".

If you've ever sat around with a group of women who shared birth stories and labor pains and felt like you didn't fit in.

If you've ever told anyone you are infertile and they're response was, "That sucks. I'm super fertile! I can have all the kids I want!".

If a fertile person ever told you that they would be your surrogate because they have no problem getting pregnant.

If you have ever gotten a shower invite through email while sitting at work trying to forget about TTC.

If you know what an RE is.

If you have ever graphed out your cycle on chart paper.

If you have ever checked to see if your cervical mucus was eggwhite or clear, or could stretch 5 inches between your fingers and you know people in the next stall over are thinking, "WTF is she doing in there?".

If you were disappointed that you couldn't find any.

If you have kept a HPT or OPK in your purse to use when you were at work or out just in case.

If you laugh when people tell you to use pillows under your butt after sex.

If you have picked out crib bedding or nursery decor online and you're not pregnant.

If you have ever felt panic when seeing a pregnant lady.

If you meet the criteria above, or you'd like to submit your own, please post the following award on your blog. This is for all of the women who will no longer be silent about their infertility. This is to remind you that you do not need to be ashamed and you are definitely not alone. This is to remind you to speak up the next time someone gives you fertility 'assvice'.

Funny and pathetic at the same time.

11 comments:

OH MY #6 said...

I love your good humor. You amaze me.

Lea
xo

Kathy and Joel said...

Ugh! Infertility is insanely difficult on so many levels!!

Kate said...

Well...yeah...funny and pathetic. And I could so relate!!! The whole cm thing was just a little too gross for me (although I sure knew all about it!)...I had one book that showed pictures and all...and I just kept thinking...."Who takes a picture of that???".

Above all...you must keep that sense of humor in such bleak times...it's all that you can hang your sanity on at times. It is such an all encompassing, difficult time.

I am with you in spirit...and please know you are most certainly not alone. One thing that I took out of the eperience is that despite the challenging days, I am above all so thankful for the right to parent...and I NEVER take it for granted. It will happen for you...and they will be the sweetest days in your life.

In friendship,

Kate

Alex and Jill said...

Great award! I can relate. :)

Love ya, girl!

Geneva said...

Oh my goodness, I think I might get one of these awards. I believe I related to each one of those comments!!! Love the assvice!!

Lori said...

AMEN! I laughed and winced while reading. I can relate to 95% of this and I will be posting on my blog :-)) Thank you :-)

Lilly said...

If I can relate? I'm laughing so hard. Sad but I can relate 110%. You say it so right and I'll nominate you in a heart beat. You go girl!

PS: I love the term "assvise".

Parisienne Farmgirl said...

Wow. I don't even know what to say. Anything I say is going to be wrong. Saying, "hang in there" sounds pitiful.
Still praying.

Jan said...

I can definitely relate!! Our IVF was unsuccessful. After abandoned , as well as failed cycles, we were only able to retrieve 2 eggs - one abnormal and the other just would not fertilize. We were, however, able to follow a different road through international adoption from China. That is how I found your blog - on another families blog. I've been one of your cheerleaders ever since! Wishing you the very best of success with you IVF!!

Alyson and Ford said...

I can relate, BTDT! I can't count how many ladies offered to birth my baby for me! Ugh! Tears always come to my eyes reading a list like this, too many women are suffering.
No way am I putting this award on my blog; my family won't understand and they will think I am over obsessing or sinking into a funk...... thank goodness for adoption and my two "steps". We have a wonderful family!

Alyzabeth's Mommy

Teresa said...

BTDT on a few of those. I can vividly remember my friend (who was also having trouble conceiving), announce to our entire group of friends that she was pregnant and I felt everyone's eyes on me for a split second to see how I would react. It wasn't good. I washed my face in the bathroom and then 15 minutes later, had to run outside so that I wouldn't disrupt the party with crying. I also remember 17 pregnant friends and family members. Politely declining baby shower attendance, but sending a nice gift so that I wouldn't spoil their joy or make them feel they had to walk on eggshells around me at their celebration.

It stinks.