Sunday, February 14, 2010

A Wife's Plea

Please respect our wishes regarding treatment from this point on. We are well-informed about the type of cancer Michael has and the various treatment options for it. We have sought out and gone to great lengths to work with one of the best kidney cancer programs in the nation. We know Dr. K has done everything that can be done medically for Michael.

Please respect our space. Our home is only about 850 square feet. When you come to visit, please come in small groups of two or three at a time.

Please respect our time. Michael tires very quickly. When we ask that you stay for a short time, it's not because we don't want to see you or spend time with you, it's because it takes so much out of him.

Please choose topics of conversation that are life affirming and not focused on death. We are still focused on living and enjoying the time we have together.

Please leave your doubt at the door. We are living in faith that God will do something the doctors cannot do. We know the odds are against us inasmuch as what we know to be true from a medical standpoint, but we are choosing to live each day trusting God for healing. This gives us a hope and a peace of mind we cannot have if we focus on our doubts and fears.

Thank you.

23 comments:

Shelley said...

Well said. Love and healing to you both.

Isabella's Mommy and Daddy said...

BIG HUGS and positive thoughts and Love sent your way..
In my prayers...
Hugs..

Number 6 and no more counting! said...

xo Lea

AprilMay said...

I believe God moves in our world doing miracles every single day. We just don't hear about most of them, but they are happening, and they are real!!

Sara said...

I hate to think that people are not respecting what is best for you right now. Do not worry about hurting peoples' feelings right now -- just live for yourselves and do what brings you peace. Everyone else can just deal!

Wish I lived there. I'd steal you for a tea break...or bring you and Michael some music to tune in and zone out to...anything!

Lots of love from across the country,
Sara

Alyson and Ford said...

In song and prayer and tears and smiles, always in our hearts you both shall be...
peace
fm

Noelle said...

Tonight I am praying for healing and a miracle from God.

Christie said...

Praying for you both on this Valentines Day

and crying a little too - hope that's ok...

J&L said...

You are in charge and should live with no regrets! You have been amazing, if others are following what you wish, teach them and move them along!

fuzzandfuzzlet said...

My sincere wish for you is that your remaining time together is precious.

Continue to communicate what you need from those around you. I think it is important that this difficult time be on your terms.

Homemaker Ang said...

very well said. you must protect your hubby at this time and don't feel afraid to say anything that will make him more comfortable or happy! You are setting your boundaries and that is a good thing! If it were me I would even go as far to say only CLOSE friends and family of you and Michael. People mean well but they just don't get it sometimes.

Heather said...

So sorry to hear of your situation. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kim said...

It was nice to see you asking for what you need and spelling it for those who don't understand.

Praying for Michaels healing.

Leigh said...

I am in prayer for you and Michael. Praying that your boundaries will be respected. Praying for precious, beautiful moments between you and Michael, and still praying and believing for a miracle. What medicine cannot do, we know God can! My heart aches for you. May God give you comfort and peace. And may you be surrounded by those who strengthen you and encourage you! Love and peace, Leigh

Katie said...

Praying.

Janet said...

I will continue to pray for your Beloved, Joannah. And for you.

Celia said...

If you have not been there yet, the hospice website is very helpful. I wish you peace.

Marie W said...

Here from LFCA

Praying without ceasing for your peace and Michael's health. "Now unto HIM who is able to do exceedingly, abundantly, above all we can ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us" - Eph 3:20

cowgirltn said...

Peace and prayers for your road ahead.

Sig said...

I found your blog through AprilMay's. I had cancer and am in remission. My stepdad battled it too but passed recently. However, he was a walking miracle. He lived so much longer than they said he would.
I will be praying for you and your husband, that you have much more time together. God can move mountains!
Hospice is *wonderful* when you are ready for them and need them.
Keep the faith!

Jan said...

Well said, Joannah. We've been through cancer as well. Not easy. Stay positive. Live, cherish and love each and every moment.

All our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Wishing you peace and sending lots of love and ((hugs)) your way.

Sending more prayers that people respect your wishes.

Jan, John & Jillian Rose

Calico Sky said...

Oh Joannah ((((((Hugs))))))) may you have just the support you both need and your wishes respected!

Kris said...

you are amazing... AMAZING. what an advocate Michael has in you.

i can't stop crying, and strangely, there is a bit of a smile on my face. love is the most powerful, most astonishing and beautiful force in this world.