Dumb Advice

We were at a party last night with lots of Michael's friends. The same guy who asked me last year at a Christmas party if we were "trying to procreate" asked us how the baby making is going. This is a guy my husband sees twice a week, and according to Michael, he is kept up-to-date about our situation. I don't have a problem with that at all, but I fail to understand why he then has to bring it up in social situations.

So, after receiving a rather general answer from us, he asks us if we're considering adoption and he tells us that he knows lots of people who "have gone to China and brought back beautiful girls," and "the orphanages are full of babies there." I quickly jump in and tell him that I was in the process before Michael and I decided to get married and that I had to forfeit. He then says, "What they don't want married couples to have their kids?" Ignoring that, I tell him I'd still be waiting at least another year at the rate China's process is going, and Michael tells him that we can't adopt from China because Michael is over the age limit.

Then he goes on to suggest we adopt from the Phillipines, and he jokes that it would probably only cost $800. The ignorance about international adoption and the lack of sensitivity towards our struggle to have a family is unbelievable.

I think I'll have to skip that party next year.

For what it's worth, I know this man isn't mean-spirited. He's just a clod.

One more thing...

He also had to go and say that if we adopted we'd get pregnant for sure. My husband jumped on board with that train of thought (too much wine), and I had to school both those boys that only about 5% of couples achieve pregnancy after adopting.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about the ridiculousness of that conversation all day today!