It bothers me that opinions like this one are part of the backlash against that eccentric mom of multiples. I wouldn't have been aware of the article because I loathe the LA Times, but another IF blogger posted about it today. I read the article and the reader comments, and was so irritated by the overall assumptions made there. I don't really appreciate being lumped into the category of narcissists because my husband and I are trying to have children via IVF. And, I think the author of that article doesn't really have a grasp of the expense and difficulties people are faced with when they choose to adopt. There is no easy path to parenthood when infertility is involved. I think some of the criticism towards the mother in question is understandable, but to extend that to all infertility patients is unfair.
Anyway, you know what they say about opinions - everyone has one.
Finally, I have come down with some sort of sinus thing. One side of my face feels normal, and the other side is stuffed up and congested. The pressure in my sinuses is giving me an earache. I'm popping my Zicam meltables several times a day to buck up my immune system. I hope this thing runs its course quickly.
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I agree...the Times article is horrible! You'd think the reporter would do a little research. You have to just ignore people like that, hard as it is! Otherwise, you are giving them more attention than they deserve. I'm glad you are trying to rest before the cycle begins!
I can't remember what they say about opinions...would you tell me?
HA!!!
I've got plenty.
Opinions that is.
My husband is sitting here and he doesn't get it, now I am laughing even harder.
Ok, I just jumped over and read that article and it's writer is a real opinion!
Just had a light bulb moment with hubby - he is laughing now.
I think this is the first time I have posted to your site, but I love how you have honestly portrayed your journey to parenthood.
I love how people think it is within their "rights" to tell other people how to start or complete their families. If you were adopting, (which I know is also in your heart to do,) this guy or some other one just like him would be telling you that you weren't doing it from the right country or the right race. Believe me, I have been told, and I have been known to say something back. ;)
Do what is in your heart and don't let the jerks get you down.
Keri
Thinking about you as you begin this new journey! Hope that "Mother Nature" arrives so you can get this show on the road. :)
The most surprising thing about the hostility towards the octoplet mom is that people think it's not "fair" or "right" that she did this. But they attack her with claws and fangs extended in a vicious way that is neither fair nor right. As if they can't see their own faults?
I think she's unstable but I don't fault her for being a mom of 14 since my own Great Grandmother was a mom of 12 and I would have LOVED to have a large family.
What I fault her for is being selfish enough to put all those babies at risk by trying to carry all of them to term at once. She was only 32 or 33 and she had all the time in the world to carry those kids two at a time. If the 8 babies escape serious disabilities, it won't be because of her (it'll be because of luck).
I was almost 43 when I did my last IVF and we transferred all 12 embroys knowing that we'd be lucky to even get one. We knew that this was our last attempt and we would not freeze or donate any of our remaining embryos (because of my age) so we came to terms with the reality that we'd reduce the pregnancy if more than two stuck (a very slim chance given my age and history). In the end, we got one little heartbeat out of those twelve. On the day we saw that heartbeat on the ultrasound, Gwen was born in China. That pregnancy didn't go to term but we have our Gwenny (and Maddy too!).
You're right. There's no easy path to parenthood but if you persevere, you'll get there - one way or another.
You are in my thoughts as you step forth into what comes next...
Hugs and hope
Both you and Michael are in my thoughts through this. Hugs to you Joannah!
Hi. I'm a fellow cycle sista. I'll be checking in to see how things are going. Good luck!
I wanted to wish you the best of luck as you head down the path to parenthood. I don't know why people feel they have the right to voice hurtful statements. Best of luck to you {{{hug}}} I hadn't read the article you mentioned but I'm heading on over to read it.
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